It’s exactly like it sounds. I still have my clothes check number written on my wrist in black marker.
For anyone, it would be a liberating experience. I met friends there with the faiapgirlfriend and it was more than a liberating experience.
First off, it was a great litmus test for myself. I have a (somewhat irrational) fear that I’m going to become a homophobic straight jerk as a guy that is attracted to women. This underwear party was mainly a gay mens event (that is, the only people that weren’t gay men there were my friends)- and I was comfortable. Even when it was wall to wall of guys in their underwear. Sure, I didn’t really want anyone’s sweaty body against mine nor did I have any appreciation for the porn playing on the video screens above the bar… but I didn’t have any fear/panic that someone might hit on me or expect me to be gay.
Secondly, I was in nothing but trunk (boxer) briefs and a small white tshirt over my binders. It was… revealing. I had very little control over whether people saw me as male because I didn’t have the daily drag of clothes to play with. It was my body, my movements, just barely me that defined the gender that people saw me as. A guy I met through gay softball didn’t recognize me at first and then asked why I didn’t have my shirt off… I told him that I would need $8000 to be able to do that and laughed. I’m not sure he knows I’m ftm. A bartender thought I was female-identified and when I corrected his awkward comment about my vagina he offered to give me the beers for free. I declined, because his misstep had the best intentions and he accepted my explanation without complete ignorance.
Thirdly, I used the women’s bathroom for the first time since… God knows when. Mostly it was because I knew guys were using it as well and I really wanted to be in and out quickly. It was a little surreal though.
Lastly, it was purely liberating. Everyday I put on clothes and try to enhance who I am, especially the gender that doesn’t match my entire body, by dressing to express myself. The only way I could express myself that night was a 5inch length of clothing (my blue striped) and by my actions- dancing and laughing and smiling. Something about the simplicity of being caught in your underwear makes you resort to something further, inside yourself. It was like a strength-building exercise, for my resolve.
And it was a party.